5 Ways To Help Your Child If You Think They Are Depressed

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Does Your Child Have Mild To Severe Depression Symptoms?

5 Ways To Help Your Child If You Think They Are Depressed

In previous blogs we reviewed signs of depression.

If your child has severe depression symptoms, please seek the advice of your doctor or therapist. Seek emergency care if you are concerned about your child’s health and safety.

  1. Connect with them.

    For younger children that means making sure you have daily time for one on one play. For older children and adolescents that might mean a special outing where there is time to talk e.g. a walk in the park, going for a coffee.

  1. Ask open-ended questions.

    Tell them you have noticed a change in them and ask open-ended questions e.g. tell me how you’ve been feeling? What can I do to help you at the moment? Help me understand what happened in school today (e.g. if there has been an incident reported to you).

  1. Explore who else they can talk to.

    If your child will not open up to you, see if you can help them identify another family member, friend or school professional they could talk to.

  1. Don’t be afraid to ask if they have been thinking about hurting or killing themselves or if they have a plan to do so.

    Talking and asking questions about suicidal thoughts and plans does not put ideas into children’s heads as some parents fear. Rather, being asked about it can be a relief for a young person and an important step in getting them the help they need. If your child is saying that they have a plan that they are going to carry out, you should call 911 or take them to the nearest emergency room.

  1. Refer to a Mental Health Professional.

    Mental health concerns may often have overlapping symptoms, for example anxiety and depression are often present together. Contributing factors e.g. substance abuse also need to be ruled out. If you are concerned about your child, you should always seek a professional opinion.


What Interventions are available for depression?

Cognitive-Behavioural Therapy

Cognitive-Behaviour Therapy (CBT) helps people to understand their thoughts, feelings and bodily sensations. During therapy, the young person is taught to recognise and challenge some of the thoughts that may be maintaining their depression. The therapist may also ask them to track the things they do in a week and look at how they effect their mood. They may then be asked to schedule in more ‘pleasurable events’ to their week.

There is a lot of research that shows the effectiveness of CBT. CBT has been shown to not only effect how someone feels but also to lead to positive changes in brain chemistry.


Family Therapy

Family therapy focuses on the family as a ‘system’ and how family interactions may be contributing to ‘the problem’. There may be a focus on family communication and relationships, on looking for solutions and alternatives to ‘the problem’, or on understanding it in different ways.

Parent-Child Therapies

Parent-child therapies are for younger children and focus on building parent-child relationships through play. When parent-child relationships are strengthened, children feel better about themselves, and develop more confidence.



There are a variety of medications available for depression. They are not usually prescribed for younger children but may be prescribed for adolescents. A family doctor or a psychiatrist can prescribe medication. Therapists usually recommend that therapy is started initially and that medication is considered if therapy alone is not helping.


Quick Tips:

  • Don’t ignore your child’s depression symptoms

  • Talk to your doctor or therapist if you are concerned

  • Identify signs of depression

  • Get help! There are many options for treatment

What are signs of depression?

Read more on social development in children.

The general information provided on the Website is for informational purposes and is not medical advice.

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If you have a medical emergency, call a physician or qualified healthcare provider, or CALL 911 immediately. Under no circumstances should you attempt self-treatment based on anything you have seen or read on this Website. Always seek the advice of your physician or other licensed and qualified health provider in your jurisdiction concerning any questions you may have regarding any information obtained from this Website and any medical condition you believe may be relevant to you or to someone else. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have read on this Website.

Jemma Helfman, ClinPsyD., C.Psych.

About Jemma Helfman, ClinPsyD., C.Psych.

Dr. Jemma Helfman is a child and adolescent clinical psychologist. She works at Kidcrew, providing assessment and interventions for children with a variety of presenting difficulties. Jemma also provides consultation and training to schools and daycares.

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