How to Show Children How Much You Love Them
I am often thinking of new ways to celebrate my kids through new routines and I welcome new ideas!
Here are my ways to show our children how much we love them:
• Write a note to your child – the old ‘note in the lunch box’ thing never gets old (at least, for parents).
• Make dates with your kids individually, with either or both parents. Your child will love it! My older son and I go to spinning/yoga together every Saturday – we both love that time.
• Have family nights, and declare it a NO DISTRACTION ZONE – no smartphones, meetings or phone calls.
• Display love and compassion for your partner. It is invaluable for your children to see your affection, as they will imitate it in future relationships. I still remember fondly my parent’s stolen kisses when they thought I wasn’t looking.
• Hug them, often. A tight, unexpected hug is delicious.
• Color with your child. You can learn a lot about what is going on with them.
• Read with your kids. Cuddle and read whatever they want.
• Catch your children with an unexpected smile. Then keep smiling till you get one back.
• Invite some friends over to play their favorite game.
• Look at old pictures or watch videos of your kids as babies and small children.
• Talk with them, eye-to-eye, with no distractions for as long as they want.
• Be patient. There’s no need to rush life. Soon enough, your kids will be adults.
• Surprise them with their favorite meal or toy…just because.
• Get involved in their lives. Learn what they like – friends, toys, music, food. Share their loves and they’ll share yours.
• Discuss their feelings, openly and daily. They will likely be more comfortable coming to you for advice.
• Ask your child for their counsel on something. Show them that their input and suggestions are valuable to you.
• Celebrate and encourage your child in what they excel at, even if you would rather they focused on other activities.
• Save important pictures, awards, schoolwork and milestones. I love looking back at this stuff from childhood, and it means so much to me that my parents kept my treasures.
• Let them see your failures and successes and how you deal with both.
• Let them also see you apologize and admit when you’ve been wrong.
• Be their best friend sometimes, and their parent always.
• Find things you both love to do, and do them together…often.
• Be consistent in your parenting, but flexible.
• Praise good behavior and you will see more of it.
• Keep a journal. I use the 1-Line-A-Day Journal to keep brief notes about my
family’s day. When your kids are grown, they can share your notes with their children.