I’m Going Back To Work And I Need Your Help

I’m Going Back To Work And I Need Your Help

I’m Going Back To Work And I Need Your Help

 

I’m heading back to work next week, and I will definitely miss being home. I’m a family man, I love being with my kids and doing things with them and for them. For the past 3 months I’ve been on Pat Leave, and I had the best time. Like many moms and dads out there, its time to go back to work.

 

With going back to work comes a lot of feelings that I wasn’t prepared for. The one I’m most surprised with is anxiety.

 

Now I’ve always been a hands-on dad, but this took it to the next, and I’ll say, great, level. With going back to work comes a lot of feelings that I wasn’t prepared for. The one I’m most surprised with is anxiety. The anxiety is not from having to work, that’s easy. The anxiety comes from wondering, how do I make this transition without affecting my relationship with my kids? I’m sure many of you have felt this way. Being away from work has allowed me to be more relaxed as the pressures from work aren’t weighing on me nightly. My need to check my email is low, as is my need to respond. What this means is our kids and wife have my utmost attention.

 

The anxiety comes from wondering, how do I make this transition without affecting my relationship with my kids?

 

I did a lot of the stay-at-home-parent type things, like grocery shopping midday, running family errands and catching up on some around-the-house chores. But what has been most rewarding was being around to take the kids to school, pick them up afterward, make lunches, and take them to the park after school. This last one is a sticking point for me because the summer is upon us and there’s nothing like playing in the park with your kids.

 

I need to find a way to separate myself from this so I can give my undivided attention to our boys.

 

By heading back to work, I know I’ll have the pressure back on, there will be things to do in the evening pressing issues from work which I will be thinking about when I get home. I need to find a way to separate myself from this so I can give my undivided attention to our boys.

 

How am I doing this?

  • I’m unplugging around the kids, but you knew this already.
  • Time with my kids is priority; I’m leaving work outside the house. I’ll go outside and pick it up again once the kids are in bed. I can’t think of anything that will be more important than dedicated time to my kids.
  • Weekends, these are family time and will continue to be family time. This will be the priority.

 

Sadly, I’ll have to make up for both quality and quantity, with more quality as there are only so many hours a day. Therein lies the source of my stress.

 

So I’m asking those of you out there for help. Leave me a comment below or tweet me (@as_levy) to let me know how you managed through this.

 

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Quick Tips:

  • Unplug around your kids

  • Leave work at a reasonable time

  • Take your kids to the park or tuck them in at night (or both!)

  • Do work after their bedtime if needed

 

Andrew Levy PhD

About Andrew Levy PhD

Andrew obtained his PhD from the University of Waterloo in Physiology, a topic not entirely having to do with with kids health specifically. Andrew’s expertise in kids health and raising children stems from his now 4+ years of direct hands on experiences with 3 little boys. My goal is to share some practical advice and some of the little not-so-perfect things my kids have done and how we managed to figure it all out so you can too.

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2 thoughts on “I’m Going Back To Work And I Need Your Help

  1. Andrew Levy PhDAndrew Levy PhD Post author

    HI Cindy,

    Thanks for sharing your story. I feel very similar to you, and maximizing the time as a family is an absolute must regardless of whether we are working parents. You are correct they are only small for a short time.

    Andrew

  2. Cindy

    Hi,
    I too had a lot of anxiety on this issue. One of our solutions was to hire a Nanny at home. This solved our issues with preparing dinner and doing light housework like laundry and cleaning. When we came home after work my husband and I were then able to give our undivided attention to the kids until bedtime. We weren’t stressed out with the chores because they were covered. Some people said we were “lucky” to have a nanny. However it was a big financial decision that we had to budget out. However the quality of life benefits far exceeded any negatives we came across. Our moto is “they are only small for a short time”. Thank you for your article.
    Cindy

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